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Post by danzia on Apr 23, 2016 4:06:24 GMT
My ex initially appeared supportive when I started. As our relationship exploded into pieces, he let me know how much he missed my curly hair and hated my dreadlocks. He said he hated that my hair didn't smell the same, and a bunch of other not so accepting stuff. Good thing he's an ex. I haven't had much time to date since, but I would never date, let alone have a long term relationship, with someone who didn't embrace my choice of hair.
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Post by ohphob on Apr 25, 2016 16:46:46 GMT
When I first told my boyfriend about 3 years ago that I wanted to do dreads (my first set) he was a little hesitant and for the first couple months I could tell he still wasn't sure. After they started to form her loved them and made me promise I would have dreads again after I brushed them out. Now I'm on my second set and he is so happy! He helped me with a couple during this set and he was with me the whole time keeping me company so maybe it likes them better because he feels more of a part of them. I have changed soooooo much since I've had dreads I feel like I have become more of my true self and I can express myself to people more publicly. Me and him do argue but they are more of debates about our views on things than really arguing but after like 3 minutes we both end up saying sorry
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Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2016 16:57:31 GMT
lipstic, we went out this weekend for the first time that you could tell I had them and I got lots of looks, most of them seemed to be positive looks which made him squeeze my hand I bit tighter. He says they are sexy on me and he likes them he wouldn't be the type to say I couldn't but I don't think he was prepared for the amount of attention they bring. Mostly just curious looks. One lady turned all the way around to look and was totally embarrassed that I caught her staring. He's not as hippie as me but he's getting there lol, some without noticing and some against his will, mostly when it comes to eating right. I think he will be ok though lol.. That's kinda why I have taken my time putting them in, letting everyone adjust to the change slowly.. Baby steps.. Teeny, tiny baby steps!!!
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Post by BrokenJetSki on May 2, 2016 2:54:41 GMT
My partner didn't really like dreads...or piercings but he understood that they were expressions of who I felt I was, and understood that I am my own person. I discussed it extensively with him and felt that I was making the right choice. He reluctantly would help t&r my hair when my arm needed a break for a few minutes. He didn't like them at first, but as they've matured, they've grown on him. He still sometimes misses my old hair, and we both definitely miss the length, but he knew that my dreads were a journey more than just hair. I have done so much growing, both on my own, and in this relationship, in the past year and my hair has been a HUGE part of that. He has always understood that it was more to me than style, he wasn't always thrilled and still doesn't love them, but he respects them as a physical manifestation of my spiritual growth.
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Post by twistroot on May 6, 2016 3:25:36 GMT
When I told my husband I was going for it, he said "Is it reversible?" and I said "Sure!" So he said he didn't care (he's used to all sorts of odd experiments on my part.) Around month 2 he started calling me "Medusa" and referring to my dreads as "the snakes". He complains some if he gets accidentally hit with them, and once when hugging me he got one in his mouth ( ?) and it had Dollylocks tightening spray on it which he said was "the worst thing he had ever had in his mouth." Then he stopped mentioning it at all for a while, but now occasionally says they are cute. Interestingly enough, since I have done this, he finally screwed up the courage to grow a full beard and let his hair grow long.....two things he had always wanted to try but was afraid of the response at work (works in a VERY clean cut, ex-military type office.) So, even though he doesn't say much, I think my dreads inspired him!
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Post by kells on May 6, 2016 17:36:33 GMT
Hahaha, I use my dreads as a weapon and often smack my boyfriend with them XD Glad you inspired him though!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2016 11:13:56 GMT
Well, I fear a long road ahead...hmm, dont even know how to say this...well, of course the hubs knows he can't make me do anything, nor would he ever be rude to me about my hair choices,...but I don't know how thrilled he is going to be when these new ones start coming in. He noticed my new t&r and was like, "oh? I thought you werent doing anymore" (thinking to myself) well gee! What do you think ive been rubbing my hair around in a knottedmess forthe last few months for!? (Ok, in his defense, I kinda didnt tell HIM I was doing more...in fact, I..well, I was just hoping ...he wouldnt notice? damn idk!...) well, cuz I STILL dont know what to do or how I want it...but the ones in the center of my head were locking up quicker than the ones underneath, so I just made this very large section and... yeah, idk...before everyone starts rolling their eyes at my eratic behavior on this site again,...well, it has kindof just been my way of trying to distract myself from this worry...and well, you have heard about the rest of the "support" I have around here on this (not! Or knot) um...so...yeah...
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